Life, has it's ups and it's surprises...

Ever have those moments where one minute you are thinking life is great, and the next it's spiraling out of control and you don't know where life as you know it is going to take you. That moments can be a house foreclosure, a lost job or even the arrival of a new family member. For me it was the latter. My husband and I have been on the fence about having anymore children, me, I really am not sure if I would like any more however Him, he is up and rearing to go for as many children as he wants; figures he has to do the easy part. Think about it, men don't have to worry about all the muscle changes, hormone changes, and all the other things that come with being pregnant, LOL. They aren't the ones that have to suffer through 6-9 hours of labor and all the pushing that comes with it. All though when the moment is right I do have to say they do have a good habit of coming to the rescue at a desperate woman's hour of need. I don't know how you feel however when a woman finds out that she is pregnant they feel one of two emotions either they excited or they are unsure of what's going to happen. Me, I haven't figured out how I feel. i do know that it is what it is, and no matter what I can't change what has happened, however I can accept it and move on. So with that expect the unexpected. When life throws you a curve ball you can either dodge the bullet or you can hit it head and enjoy the ride.

What's the true contraversy?

Life with out controversy would be boring, at least that what it would seem. However, sometimes I wonder just how much controversy in life should there be. For example, I was sitting in the local drug store and I just happened on a local periodical in one of the tabloid magazines. Normally I wouldn't read those things however because twenty minutes had to be killed my curiosity was perked. The article read and I paraphrase: "Dugger family, 19 kids and possible wanting to have more." My first thought was, what are these people thinking? I mean think about it, they already have a lot more kids than any normal family thinks that they can handle it. However on the flip side, look at how they run their house hold. For a person who has A.D.D. I have to commend them on how organized they are They don't have any debt, and most likely they also pay their bills on time. How many families can say that, I know I can't. However, you also have to look at the circumstances as of date. Not only was their last pregnancy high risk, but the baby weighs less than two pounds, and look at her mother's age. It's not like she is in her twenty's any more, and science has proven that the older a woman gets the riskier the pregnancy gets. I used to think: It's their life if they can handle 19 kids and can handle more than go for it. However, having kids of my own (even though I have two) and having to go through the jealous stage I have to wonder. How can the Head Dugger family members (the parents) really give the emotional support that children really need from their parents? Yes I do know that they do have a buddy system, however what about the children's mental state, I mean are they really comfortable watching their mom have to split her attention between 19 kids? In my own comfort zone I can't really understand why people do what they do, however, if they can handle what is given to them and all the controversy that comes with it, than they must be stronger than what the normal public thinks they are, all I can say is this: I am glad that it's not me, cause two are enough.

Too much of a good thing?

This post is to all of the HGTV watchers out there who love too watch the show House Hunter's or My first Place. It's not a common fact that as humans we can never be happy with how much stuff that we can attain. I call it "Keeping up with the Jones's" Think about it, are we ever happier with the same car that we drive or are we always dreaming of the next best thing, or what about that two to three bedroom house that we own can we honestly say that we are fully content with what we have or are we always looking for something that may be greener on the other side? My reason for bringing this up is every time I watch the HGTV I have to laugh. Think about it here is a newly married couple or single man or woman and they are looking for a house. Yep they are the entrepreneurs of the new housing market, however they don't want just any old house. These types are going for broke and looking for houses that have about five bedrooms, one to two baths, the really large kitchen, a pool/hot tub in the back yard, a huge master bed and not to mention a finished basement. As I sit there and watch this the first word that comes to mind is "WHAT!!" Either they have a whole lot of friends, or it's greed that makes them want such a gigantic house. The way I figure it is, if you are single and with no kids why in the world would you want a house with no more than two bedrooms. My reasoning for two bedrooms is because it would be nice to have an office, and three would be okay for a sewing room or work out room, however any more than three is just being plain old greedy. In closing my thought is this, that it's any person's life if it's the really big house that you wish however, keep in mind that too much of a good thing is never a good thing cause in the end there is always a price to pay. The question is, what is yours?

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Men, What's the deal?

It's a common known fact that men are supposed to be the providers in the home. They are the bread winners, the protectors, and unfortunately the biggest whiners that I have ever met. Come on ladies, how about it? Think about it, what happens when we (the mom's) get sick? Does any one bend over and swoon over us like we are on our last leg? If you're house is like mine, we live by one motto: "If momma gets sick, than no one isn't happy." Mom's are expected to suck it up, move on, and deal with it. However, when men get sick, watch out world cause the it's all gonna collapse around you and every one is expected to drop every thing and just deal with it. In our house hold my significant other is willing to wait weeks in search of medical attention while I on the other hand listen to my physical needs an go to the doctor when it's appropriate. On the other hand there are times when I wonder just how long is this very stubborn man going to wait before he goes and seeks the help that he may or may not need. This man either is very stubborn or his pain tolerance is so extremely high that it's not even funny. Not only does it take a whole lot of arm twisting, but also a lot of conniving and scheming just to get him to go. So here is my great debate: Can men really take care of themselves, or are they just in denial when it comes to their health or do they just not care?

Expect the unexpected....

I have finally figured out why God decided to bless us with children (LOL). Honestly how many couples sit down and think about having children without thinking about the pros and cons? When they say that they want to have kids they probably aren't thinking about cost, and all of the interesting things that children bring to the table. In fact all they see is this bouncing bundle of joy that's wrapped in a diaper who toddles around with a big grin on their face. As I sit and watch my own kids I realized that the reason for children is to keep us grown ups humble and to remind us that they are only young once. I bring this up because it doesn't matter where you are, your kids will still find away to remind you that you are a mom, your human and your love will never cease no matter how silly kids can be. The other day we were at the local park when my son who I will lovingly call Jr. decided that he needed to go, and I don't mean go home. My only question is why is it that kids can never go before leaving home? Nope as soon you hit the restaurant, grocery store, church you hear the inevitable. "MOMMM, I HAVE TO GO! Again, they are there to make sure are ready for any moment, and to make sure that you are fully prepared. In the mean time, we were at the park and there was no way this child was in mood to wait. Before I could say the phrase, "Do you think you could wait?", this child had disappeared behind a tree. Not to create a TMI but all you could see was the steady stream of him being busy, and my only comment at the moment was, A boy will do what a boy will do. As I tried very hard not to laugh I kept wondering how I was going to react to this, it's not like I could punish him after all the way I see it, every thing is bio-degradable. The one thing thought that I did come to was this, one of two things can happen: One I could get mad cause he couldn't hold it, or two realize that as a parent we need to expect the unexpected. Just look at it this way, he will only be young once and when he gets his first girl friend it will be ammunition for you to use to keep him humble. Remember: Pay backs are sweet and once day ever dog has their day or should I say in this case it's the parents who will have their own stories to share and maybe even a laugh or two....

Good things should be free!

"The best things in life are free." How many times have you heard that slogan. Well for the first time in a long time I am standing up in opposition, and thinks that the phrase should read: "The best thing in life should be free. I bring this up cause we live in a hick town where there is no free public parking, and you get ticketed every chance you get. Now parking isn't really that exuberant, however can you honestly say that you always walk around with a pocket full of quarters just waiting to throw them in the parking meter? I didn't think so. Now I will definitely take responsibility for the ticket but what I can't understand is if the local government is complaining that there isn't enough traffic coming down town why not fix it and offer free parking. I bring this up because we were parked in the library parking lot and the library is supposed to be free. How is the library free if you have to pay for parking? Again I bring up the quarter issue, seriously if you are like me, I forget to even grab loose change cause I am constantly on the run and having quarters should be a necessity considering that I am a mom. Not only that when you do place money in the meter what is the first thing you think of? Exactly, how much time do I have before i have to come out and have to feed the money grabbing dinosaur? The way I see it, is who ever thinks that good things are free either have their head buried in the sand, or they are in denial. Good things aren't free in fact they often come with a price the question is, Can you afford it?

In every day-a little bad must fall....

As parents we know this way too often, the day starts out really good, everything goes well and than the unexpected happens. It could start as a phone call, a small spilt glass of milk or even something that gets caught in the dish washer and burns. This happened to me and unfortunately it happened on the eve on my sons birthday. I knew that I wanted to make him what I would call a fun cake. Well, considering that I only had a only a short amount of time my time was indeed precious. I googled every idea that I could think of and thought that if I just printed out a pattern I could cut around it, yeah I don't think so. So I thought I would make it the easy way by using two pans, In short the cakes still flopped but in an intersting thought. The top cake flopped and I kid you not it flopped in the shape of head of a fish, so in the end it not only made my night a lot easier and the birthday had a lot of fun decorating his own cake. Now I am not sure if we could sell it, however, it sure looks good enough to eat, LOL, Happy 2nd birthday eating....